About Ashley B

Ashley is a Writer, Stay at Home mother of 4, not to busy to take time to slow down and smell the flowers. I also teach a Mommy and Me Dance Class to share my love of dance.

Best Ways to Celebrate Mardi Gras

When you think of Mardi Gras, or “Fat Tuesday,” you may picture wild revelry in New Orleans, complete with beads, costumes and masks. If you leave out the wild revelry part, you can enjoy some festivities with your family. Observed the day before Ash Wednesday, Mardi Gras is considered a time to let your hair down and eat sweets one more time before the 40-day period of abstinence that is commonly adhered to by Catholics and some others. This year, the celebrations take place on Tuesday, February 21. Here are a few ideas to kick-start your festivities:

* Serve up a big breakfast, preferably something sweet. After all, it’s called “Fat Tuesday” for a reason! Some ideas might include pancakes with sliced fruit and maple syrup, crepes, or thick Belgian waffles.

* Hand out Mardi Gras beads for the kids to add to their school outfits. The traditional Mardi Gras colors are purple, green and gold, so try to find one of each for each child. Encourage them to wear those colors in their clothing for the day.

* Let the kids put on a parade. Gather the neighborhood kids for a Mardi Gras parade! Give them boxes, paint, markers and other decorative materials, and have them make “floats.” Have them parade around, in costume if desired, with noisemakers and beads. This is probably a good outdoor activity, if it’s warm enough where you live.

* Have an after-school craft waiting: give them the materials to make Mardi Gras masks! Help them cut out shapes that will cover their eyes, and cut out holes for them to see through. Give them glitter, sequins, feathers and other decorations to glue on. When dry, have them tape the masks to a straw or skewer, and they can hold the masks in front of their faces.

* Have a festive dinner of jambalaya, complete with Cajun music playing in the background. If your kids won’t eat that, try chunks of  Cajun chicken, rice and vegetables.

* If your religious beliefs suggest that you give something up for Lent, talk about something that each family member might abstain from. Possibilities include dessert, chocolate, or television. One year, I gave up coffee. (If you go this route, do so gradually; otherwise, the caffeine-withdrawal headaches could definitely tempt you to give up long before 40 days pass!)

* Serve a “king cake” for dessert. Bake a cake with a small (unmeltable!) toy or a slice of fruit inside. The person who finds the addition gets a prize. Be sure to warn the kids first, and watch them carefully if the object is small enough to be swallowed or choked on!

With just a bit of planning, you can use what you have around the house to put on a memorable and fun Mardi Gras celebration for your family. They will look back during the years to come, and remember these festive times.

Do you celebrate Mardi Gras in your family?

Money Matters – Teaching Kids to Spend Wisely

My son had a birthday last month, and he ended up with a pretty big wad of cash for an eleven-year-old. Immediately, he thought of all the things he could now afford to buy: Pokemon cards, Beyblades, a remote control car. Whee, spend, spend, spend! My husband and I glanced at each other. Traditionally, we let them spend their birthday money on whatever they wanted, but most of the time we were talking about an amount hovering around $20 or $30. This was much more; apparently people did not know what to buy a pre-teen boy, so they thought they couldn’t go wrong with green.

Well, young Padawan, we told him, greater birthday gifts come with greater responsibility. In short, we weren’t going to let him blow the whole thing on Pokemon cards and spinning top toys. We gave him about a quarter of the total amount and let him do what he wanted with it. He spent it on toys, as he had said he wanted to.

Next, we encouraged him to put half into his savings account. He balked at this, pointing out that birthday money is special money to be spent on things the recipient wants. After some discussion, we negotiated: He’d keep the money in a jar, and when he wanted to spend it on something larger than what we’d normally buy on the spur-of-the-moment, he’d have to wait one week. If he still wanted to spend the sum, he could.

Finally, we pointed out that he often asked to go to the movie theater when new movies came out, and suggested that he put the rest aside for one of those times. This way, he’d never encounter a “no” from us based on not wanting to spend the money on tickets.

It can be difficult for kids to understand the value of money, particularly in today’s swipe-your-debit-card world. I rarely have more than a few dollars in cash on me, and instead use my bank card to pay for groceries, gas, and other necessities. Here are a few tips to help kids understand a bit more easily:

*Have them pay for their own items, with cash. Also, allow them to collect and count the change. It can actually put a damper on their spending spree when they need to hand over their own dough, and it teaches them a lesson on figuring tax into the equation!

*Show them how comparison shop to get a better deal. For example, the Beyblades that my son wanted to buy were $8 each, or two for $12. While sometimes it might not be possible or desirable to spend the higher amount, my son realized immediately that when buying in bulk, the price per item is often lower.

*Give a quick lesson in using coupons, and allow your child to use them when shopping. Teach shopping savvy by pointing out when it’s possible to use a coupon on top of an in-store sale.

How do you handle cash birthday gifts? Do you let your child spend the money on whatever he wants, or do you set limits? Does it depend on the amount of money in question?

Not So Extreme Couponing

Have you seen TLC’s Extreme Couponing? On the show, shoppers talk about how they stock up on items that they purchase for free or for a few pennies each. Usually these couponers have huge piles of merchandise in closets, under their beds, and in their attics, cellars and garages. They might have 100 tubes of toothpaste, 80 bottles of laundry detergent, dozens of lipsticks, cases upon cases of pasta, and hundreds of canned goods, all stacked up, waiting to be used (or not). The cameras follow these shoppers to the grocery store, where they buy something like $800 worth of groceries for $31.67. Sometimes they even receive cash back! While most of us do not have the need, desire or ability to devote hours and hours to cutting coupons, and don’t have the space to store enough soup to feed an army for six years, most of us could save some money by using coupons wisely. Here are some ideas:

*Ask around for coupons. You get a nice stack in your Sunday paper, and that means that your neighbors do, too. Casually mention that you’re couponing, and ask if your friends and neighbors use their Sunday coupons. Some do, of course, but many just throw them in the recycling bin and may be happy to hand them over.

*Watch the sales and stock up. One of the strategies that extreme couponers use is to buy on sale, and to stack a coupon on top of that sale. For example, if your favorite salad dressing is normally $3.00, but goes on sale for $2.00, and you have a coupon for 75 cents off, then you can buy the bottle for $1.25. When these types of deals are available, stock up, within reason, even if you don’t have an immediate need for the item.

*Know your favorite stores’ policies. Some stores will double or even triple coupons on certain days of the week or up to a certain amount. Others might not accept coupons that you’ve printed off of the Internet. Still others will accept store coupons from their competitors. The next time you’re in the store, have a chat with the manager to find out exactly what their coupon policies are. Take notes or ask for a copy.

*Be open to trying new brands. If you have a coupon for a brand other than that which you normally use, give it a try. If you’re not sure you’ll like it, buy the smallest (read: cheapest) variety that you can so you are not investing a lot into a new-to-you product.

*Be open to not using your coupons. Many times, buying the store’s brand is a better deal than using a coupon on a name brand. Give the store brands a try; in some cases, they taste exactly the same as or even better than the name brand products.

*Finally, don’t buy things you don’t need, coupon or not. You don’t need 100 sticks of deodorant or 120 bottles of ketchup. If you can get them for free or nearly free, consider buying them and donating them to a homeless shelter or other good cause, but unless you have an unusually large family or are shopping for the whole neighborhood, you will never use it all.

Are you an avid couponer? Would some call you extreme? What is your typical savings with coupons?

Safety First – Tips for Baby Proofing Your Home

We recently had friends come to stay with us for a few days. One of our house guests was an adorable 18-month-old. Since my own kids are big, I hadn’t been in the toddler-proofing state of mind for quite some time, so I had to really think about how to make the house safe for our little friend. I remembered to cover the outlets, and I put the kids’ tiny toys on a high shelf, but there were some things that I just didn’t think of at the time. We all kept a good eye on him, but it would have been much easier (and safer!) had I thought of all of the hazards in our home ahead of time. Whether you are currently in the toddler phase and want to be sure you’re covering the bases, or you have older children and need to prepare for a young guest, here are some safety tips to keep in mind:

Think like a short person. Chances are, your older children don’t go rummaging around under the kitchen sink, but a toddler probably will! We keep our dishwashing detergent and other cleaning supplies under there, and our young guest marched right over to take a look. For the rest of his visit, we kept everything dangerous in a high cabinet, out of his reach. When our own kids were toddlers, we kept the cleaning supplies on a high shelf in the laundry room. Since most young kids eventually figure out how to open cabinet latches, take chemicals out of your low cabinets and put them somewhere that the little ones can’t get to.

Prevent drowning. You already know how important it is to never leave a young child unattended in the bathtub or near a swimming pool, but what about the main attraction in the bathroom? Little children are drawn to toilets, because they’re low to the ground and full of water to splash around in. Since toddlers are top-heavy, they might topple right in, headfirst. When my son was a toddler, we put a hook-and-eye latch high up on the bathroom door to keep him out. Doorknob covers and toilet latches are other options (though my own little Houdinis managed to figure these out fairly quickly).

Make windows safer. Windows attract children; there’s a big, interesting world outside, and toddlers want to know what’s going on! Unfortunately, they also present a few hazards. Little ones can fall out of windows, particularly if they are left open. Window guards can prevent them from being opened more than a few inches, reducing the risk. Also the strings from blinds can become strangulation hazards. Tuck strings up, out of the reach of your toddlers.

Have your home tested for invisible hazards. Young kids are particularly affected by lead, so if you live in a home built prior to 1978, consider having the paint tested for this dangerous substance. This is especially important if the paint in your home is peeling or otherwise not in good condition. Also, if you live in an area where radon is a problem, have your home tested for this odorless, yet dangerous, gas. If you have a well, be sure to have the water tested annually.

Follow basic safety precautions. The measures that you take to keep everyone in your home safe will keep your toddlers safe as well. Make sure that you have working smoke detectors on every level of your home, and change the batteries every six months. Also, if you have a fuel-burning appliance, like a gas hot water heater, a fireplace, a kerosene heater, or a coal-burning stove, install carbon monoxide detectors as well. Be sure that railings on staircases are properly installed and in good repair. Keep floors free of clutter and debris that could cause trips and falls.

When it comes to toddlers, adult supervision is key. Watch children carefully to keep them safe, and eliminate as many safety hazards as possible, for the times that we can’t watch them every second. It only takes a few seconds for an accident to occur, so keep a first aid kit as well as the number to poison control handy. Vigilance and attention to detail will go a long way in keeping young children safe. I got all my safety products from One Step Ahead because they are durable and have stood the test of time. With a One Step Ahead Coupon for additional savings no price is to great for the safety of my family.

Choosing the right Pet for your Family

When my kids were toddlers, we found a stray kitten outside. It was a teeny tiny, pitiful little thing, and I had to bottle feed him for a few days before he was able to eat softened food. The poor kitty was so grateful to have been taken in off of the streets, that he snuggled on my chest and purred and purred. In my mind, he was going to be our new pet! Unfortunately, he did not get along with my two-year-old at all. Within a few weeks, the kitten was terrified of the toddler, and the toddler looked like a scratching post! I knew a woman who had a kitten about the same age as ours, and she was happy to give her lonely kitty a brother. It worked out well for the cat, and we learned something about kids and pets… namely, a tiny kitten and a rambunctious two-year-old might not make the best of friends!

Since then, my daughter has calmed down and we’ve cautiously dipped our toes back into the pool of pet ownership. We started with a betta fish, and now we have a tankful of tetra. We also have a much-loved hamster named Hammie. Maybe one day soon we’ll venture into the territory of having a cat or a dog… we’ll see! From all of my research (we’re not jumping in blindly this time!), I can see that there are quite a few considerations to keep in mind when picking out a pet for the kids.

  • Size Matters

You may be thinking that because your children are little, a diminutive pet would be ideal. Think again. Smaller animals are more fragile than their full-size counterparts, and they might also be more likely to bite or scratch your child. Young animals require more hands-on care, and puppies in particular take up a lot of time. If your kids are small, consider getting an adult animal, who is likely to be more calm and predictable than a puppy or kitten.

  • An Investment of Time

Whether you get a full-grown pet or a baby, you will need to invest some time in teaching your  new family member the ropes of living in your household. And if your kids are young or have never had a pet before, you will need to watch them like a hawk. Discourage grabby behavior from the beginning, and teach the kids how to treat your new pet. Also, be prepared to take on the bulk of pet care. Despite promises from your children that they will feed, walk, and otherwise care for their new dog or cat, chances are that you will need to at least monitor the pet’s feeding, grooming, and cleaning-up-after.

  • Where to Get Your Pet

We’ve all had the experience of being drawn to the fluffy puppies and kittens in the pet shop window, but caveat emptor: the animals sold in pet stores often come from puppy or kitty mills, where the animals tend to be neglected, bred too often, and sickly. Your new family member may end up having a genetic disease, and even if she doesn’t, you will be contributing to unethical and irresponsible breeding. Consider going to a shelter or humane society to pick out your perfect pet. The employees and volunteers will have the inside scoop on which animals seem well-socialized and which may have trouble acclimating to a home with children. Another good, albeit more expensive, option is to find a professional breeder. Ask your veterinarian or your local kennel club for a referral. Either way, plan to have your  new pet neutered, as this is a part of responsible pet ownership and reduces pet overpopulation.

Your new pet can bring you and your children years of joy and love. Before you add a pet to your family, however, be sure to carefully consider whether you have the time and resources to properly care for an animal, and make sure your kids are well-prepared and aware of how to treat their new dog or cat.

Do you have any tips or tricks for picking out the perfect pet?